Kiddy communication

Children are more apt at expressing their feeling honestly than adults. Adults tend to mask their true feelings because of conditioning. However children may lack the accuracy in communicating their feelings and hence often misunderstood as been spoilt or fussy.

My son on his 5th birthday was disappointed by the lack of birthday presents (as the previous years he had received many presents). So he was angry and told us that he wanted more presents. As parents, we obviously were not very pleased with such demanding response. Nevertheless, as we inquire and talk to him further, we discovered that he actually "expected" more. But he did not know how to explain his expectation. He only knew the word "want". After we understood his feelings and gave him lots of hugs and love, he felt better. His little tantrumic behaviour stop.

Major: In true communication, we must listen to what is being conveyed rather than what is said for often words cannot be used accurately by a child who lacks higher vocabulary.

Minor: We must keep our feeling in check when a child is trying to express his/her feeling to us in plain language. He/she may not mean the words said.