Kiddy communication

Children are more apt at expressing their feeling honestly than adults. Adults tend to mask their true feelings because of conditioning. However children may lack the accuracy in communicating their feelings and hence often misunderstood as been spoilt or fussy.

My son on his 5th birthday was disappointed by the lack of birthday presents (as the previous years he had received many presents). So he was angry and told us that he wanted more presents. As parents, we obviously were not very pleased with such demanding response. Nevertheless, as we inquire and talk to him further, we discovered that he actually "expected" more. But he did not know how to explain his expectation. He only knew the word "want". After we understood his feelings and gave him lots of hugs and love, he felt better. His little tantrumic behaviour stop.

Major: In true communication, we must listen to what is being conveyed rather than what is said for often words cannot be used accurately by a child who lacks higher vocabulary.

Minor: We must keep our feeling in check when a child is trying to express his/her feeling to us in plain language. He/she may not mean the words said.

Staying young

A friend commented today that I look young when actually I am older than him. While this is a nice compliment to me but I would like to share with you my preferred lifestyle.

In today's society, we are obsessed with the need to portray a hard working demeanour. While hard workingness is a virtue much sought after by employers, it is not wrong by itself to pursue to work hard.

But working hard for the wrong reason or the wrong priority can caused a lot of stress. We know stress "kills". Actually it is a silent killer.

So, by not wanting to "kill" myself, I stay "young" because stress takes its toll on a young man.

Enjoy life to the fullest!

Major: Live life the fullest God-given potential.

Minor: Do not "kill" yourself.